Comparison is the thief joy. – Theodore Roosevelt
It’s so easy to play the comparison game. What someone else has/does can always look better and that’s one of the things that gets in the way of being your happiest self.
As a blogger (or content creator) it’s so easy to look at all of the more popular bloggers out there who are traveling the world, going to all sorts of exciting events, and have thousands or millions of followers and feel like you will never measure up. It’s easy to be-little every thing you do and take all of the joy out of something that you started because it gave you the creative outlet that you had always been look for. An outlet that allows you to share about what inspires you and hopefully inspire others in the process.
Know your triggers.
If you find yourself scrolling through Instagram and wondering how perfect someone else photos (or life) appears to be, just know that they probably had to take picture after picture just to get that one perfect shot. While I like to look through my Instagram feed to get inspired, if I find that I’m just sitting there an comparing myself to others, I put the phone away because comparison will get in the way of inspiration every time. Trust me.
Focus on what you love the most, and do more.
Do you love going to see art, trying out new restaurants, traveling to new cities? Then start making plans each month to go out and do more of what you love. Don’t have the finances to travel as much as you like? Start saving up, and while you’re doing that rediscover what’s unique about the city you live in.
Accept that you’re not perfect, and neither is anyone else.
It’s easy to look at what someone else is doing and think that they must be living the perfect life. Everyone has personal drama, we’re human so drama comes with the territory. What I enjoy most about sharing here on the blog are all of the highlights of any place we’ve gone and the best parts of the experience. It’s those memories that you will cherish over and over again every time you go back and read a post you’ve written.
Celebrate the little victories.
Any victory, even the little ones deserve to be celebrated. Did you get a new follower, your first collaboration/sponsored post, or secure an interview with someone who inspires you? Celebrate it! Every little victory deserves to be a BIG DEAL.
Focus on where you want to be in the future, and start making goals that will get you there.
Everyone has to start somewhere. No one makes it without a lot of hard work (unless you’ve got some pretty amazing connections) so if you love what you’re doing and you want end up making more of impact you have to push forward. This is something that I have to remind myself of daily. Perhaps your goal will be small at first, but gradually you’ll get closer to where you want to be.
Be yourself… and embrace everything that is unique about you.
Out the billions of people in the world, there’s no one else like you. You shouldn’t try to be anyone else. Just be yourself and people will love you for just being you.
This beautiful ‘interactive’ mural was painted by Charlotte artist Caroline Simas and is on one of the outer walls of Crossings on Main (Main St. Fort Mill, SC)
Do you have a tip on how you stop yourself from comparing yourself to others? Let me know in the comments below.
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